Time. Such a short word but yet means so much to so many. 5 minutes to an anxious child- is an eternity. 5 minutes waiting for a stop light- equally long. But 5 minutes catching up with an old friend, slips by in the blink of my eye.
2020 marks a year where time has felt so differently to so many people. People stuck at home under quarantine – time just drags by. Those working from home and trying to fill in as teacher, tech support, school lunch lady, coach and parent the days just blur together.
2020 marks the 10 year wedding anniversary for my husband and I. Like all married couples we have had ups and downs. But 10 YEARS…it still doesn’t seem that long.
When he had the kids propose to me, it was the easiest decision I ever made. With a simple YES – I was agreeing to be his wife, and also “mom” to his kids. We got legally married at the local courthouse- 2 weeks before we got “married” on a beach in Mexico. At the courthouse, in a blizzard, we pledged to be together as long as we lived. After the ceremony I still remember the kids asking if they could call me “mom” now. How interesting that time fades some memories but others stay with you?
Weeks later and a 100 degree difference we did it again; pledging to be together as long as we lived. Time seemed to stand still on that beach – letting us just enjoy being there together surrounded by family.
And time marches on.
In 10 years we have lived in 3 different houses. We are on a second set of vehicles; a newer car for me and a truck for him. Our KIDS are driving and have their own vehicles. We have each switched jobs at least once. I have even taken on a new job title.
We added to our family – adding our youngest son before our first wedding anniversary. Then this year adding a 4 legged child to the chaos. Our circle of friends ebbed and flowed as our lives changed; bringing in parents of our kids friends and slowly starting to lose contact with BC friends (Before Children.)
We’ve physically and figuratively lost friends and family along the way. We have been to more funerals than weddings (I think.) Like most people as we leave we wind up saying “time to get together!” Yet sometimes that “time” never comes.
And time marches on.
As we are about to close the book on 2020 – I want to challenge you to look back at the year that was. This year was something exceptional. More and more people are quick to turn the page to 2021, yet we have time to stop and reflect.
We can appreciate the time we spent with family and friends because if anything 2020 taught us that time together is not guaranteed. Take the time to reach out to those you care about. Use technology to get caught up again and reconnect. After all – it only takes a minute to dial a phone or pull up a web call.
We can frequent a favorite restaurant, store or other service provider and thank them for the time they put in serving the community (and maybe even buy something too.) Business owners are a group of people who never seem to have enough time in the day, yet regularly make the most of each and every second.
We can look back at the time we spent worrying about social distancing, distance learning, masks, political unrest, civil unrest and shutdowns. We can take a deep breath, close our eyes and thank GOD that through all of that, we woke up and were able to spend time on something.
We can stop pointing fingers, blaming others, flinging mud and general icky behavior and move on; giving our hearts and minds time to heal, rest and recover.
No one knows what 2021 will hold. I pray it brings a new found sense of calm, respect, hope and joy for each and every one of you. Time continues to march on whether we want it to or not. The best we can do is embrace the time we have and make the very most of it.
God bless you and yours in the coming year.